Why Males are Falling Behind Academically and Economically
Males are falling behind in greater numbers each year academically and economically. Our society is still using the nineteenth century belief Males should be strong and Females should be protected. This belief allows much aggression toward Males to make them tough. Any sign of weakness or work that is considered more feminine is a negative in the eyes of society, which then allows society and people a window to create more aggression toward such Males. Only Males who have been taught from a young age not to value those physical areas sufficiently and who are valued and modeled more so for qualities such as patience, understanding, ease of nature, kindness, mildness, and goodness will be able to also develop other information age skills such as mental, emotional, social, and academic skills. You see, all of those skills require more patience, ease of nature, and "low average stress along with proper pace and intensity in approaching those mental areas.”
The nineteenth century belief Males should be strong heavily and adversely affects Males from an early age onward in three large areas.
4. The extra aggression given Males along with mental, emotional, social, verbal neglect also creates high muscle tension in Males that make handwriting more difficult for boys - higher muscle tension in fingers and hands, poor handwriting – a tighter grip on the pencil/pen and also more pressure on the paper. This also creates less motivation to write both from poor handwriting and for much shorter spans of writing enjoyment due to much more fatigue on the hand and fingers. The higher average stress along with less social vocabulary (needed for independent reading and enjoyment of reading) is hurting many male children in academics. You need lower average stress, high social vocabulary to perform the decoding, organizing, visualization, and enjoyment of reading and writing. You need the social vocabulary to then use those mental faculties and energy to reach into a (more depleted for Male students) high social vocabulary and knowledge of sentence structure from socialization to then transfer that social knowledge to reading enjoyment and fluency. This hurts Males more over time as this lag in reading and lack of knowledge and skills over time increases. This leaves many Males unable to compete in the information age.
5. The extra aggression Males receive creates the Male ego or defensive cushion the Male develops from an early age to protect them from aggressions they receive from society. The Male ego or defensive cushion has negative consequences of further alienating Males from mental, emotional, social, and academic supports they “might” receive from society creating additional stress. I feel this creates more social/emotional distance even more distrust of parents, teachers, and peers for fear from many past aggressive experiences. When Males hear firm or hard words from others like teachers their minds are thinking defense and not thinking about learning and enjoying the learning process. When boys are talked to it is often with short firm commands, not soft, kind, nurtured stability necessary for mental/emotional stability. This creates more social emotional distance beginning as early as one year and increases Making Male children more wary of significant others including teachers later. Due to much less positive verbal interaction and support, I feel there is also a percentage “say 25%” of actual communication lost between Male students and others, including teachers who tend to use more complex instruction and more complex sentences. This greatly hinders mental/emotional/social growth over time and really hurts the maturity of Male children. Male students faced with much more aggression to make them tough suffer from both higher average stress that creates much more need for stress relief and so more ADD and ADHD and hurts development of many academic skills over time. Boys are not naturally more active, lag in maturity, or lag in fine motor skills. This problem is created by society by mistreatment of Males. Everyone should observe treatment of boys more closely themselves. The combination of high layers of mental frictions, social/emotional distance, and defensive cushion are working to create an impediment to learning that accumulates in harm over time for men.
In addition, the more unstable and tension filled society becomes as happened in the last ten years the more open-ended the release of stress by parents, peers, teachers, etc. upon boys of all ages is allowed and society’s gross tendency to look the other way. Now with the media stepping in to attack Males of all ages more so, this is leading to more open disrespect and more harsh treatment of Male children/men of all ages and from all areas of society. This will lead to some very angry Males in the future with less regard for themselves and for others. Since Females are still regarded as “to be protected” when times become more unstable or harsh, such release of aggressions due to stress is still not allowed by society thus protecting Females from the increased abuse. With this differential treatment, Females continue to do well where as Males who undergo more harsh treatment (due to additional release of aggression) will tend to slide back farther academically and economically. This is responsible for boys facing more hardships growing up and suffering more academically in recent years during harsh times.
The Second area of concern: In society today, men are given love, honor, respect, and support or the essentials of their self-worth only on the “condition of sufficient” achievement, money, power, status or image. Again, this is all a part of the nineteenth century belief Males should be strong. This is what makes Males so competitive. Males are continually vying or competing for the essentials of feelings of self-worth from society. They must fight through the still present, nineteenth century confrontations allowed by society upon them from an early age to achieve those benefits and feelings of self-worth.
Those Males who do not achieve in school or other like areas will not only "not receive sufficient love, honor, and respect" from teachers, parents, and others for this lacking, they will receive more neglect, discipline and more aggressive ridicule from parents and teachers to make them try harder. Again, society allows this window of aggression upon Males to make them tough. Support is not an option for fear of coddling Male children. This was probably used to keep Males and Male children in very low esteem and low feelings of self-worth to keep them trying very hard to achieve and even be willing to give their lives for their individual countries in times of war in order to generate some minute measure of love and honor from society.
Little understood, but I believe extremely important: While persons in middle to upper-class areas intensely weigh themselves and others, (Males) and assign worth of love and honor according to education, money, power, etc. Persons in working class do the same, but with less education and money, they then weigh themselves and others (Males and Male children) very intensely in areas of power, status, image, etc. In many working class and urban areas, this becomes more or less, a type of real currency of worth of Males and even Male children. Since feelings of self-worth remain very low in those areas, there is a much more open and allowed confrontational style of interaction among parents and Male children and Male peers of Male children. Striking, many girls due to both protection and modeling of others tend to join in the game of using more abrasive words and actions toward Male children who appear weak in some way. The use of force and power is so openly accepted and used in lower socioeconomic areas, it is a wonder more Male children are not as drawn to those areas of conduct.
A Male student who can achieve in the classroom will do so. He will receive sufficient love, honor, respect, and support for academics and will continue to put forth more effort. When a Male Child is not showing a measure of achievement in school, he will tend to receive more neglect, abuse, and ridicule from parents and “teachers” than the Female child. This signals to the Male Child that he will not receive the essentials of self-worth in academics. He will then push himself in areas such as video games, sports, and other pursuits to receive tid-bits of love, honor, and respect (self-worth) from his peers. Over a period of years, this leaves Males far behind Females in mental, emotional, social, and academic knowledge and skills.
The Third area of concern: In addition, generally Males “are not given” - kindness, ease, gentleness, and stable - mental, emotional, social, and academic support, attention, knowledge and skills (unless by accident). Society in its ignorance from the nineteenth century belief Males should be strong considers such attention and support as coddling the Male child. Society still holds that Males should pull themselves up by their own bootstraps. As a result, Males are not given the tools to develop many mental, emotional, social, and academic skills. This greatly cuts down on their motivation to develop those skills. The combined effect of society only rewarding strength and power to face aggression; neglect in many social and academic areas; not rewarding but acting with more aggression toward Males who attempt to develop mildness, kindness, goodness, and care for others are hurting many Males. Over a period of years, this is leaving many Males grossly unable to compete in the information age, which requires a slow accumulation of many complex mental, emotional, social, academic skills and talents. This is creating the ever-growing international Male Crisis that will only get worse for Males and then get much worse for Females when Males begin to take back with interest, their power and status. I feel society will continue maintaining this mistreatment of Males until a critical point is reached.
The truth is, little boys need just as much coddling as the girls and just as much kind, considerate mental, emotional, social, and academic support as the girls. While neglect of Male children and boys may have proved useful in the more physical nineteenth century, it is working opposite of need in the information age where it requires much more accumulated mental, emotional, social and academic skills acquired over time. In these areas, Males are being seriously shortchanged.
It is incorrect to view the Male Crisis on role models. The lack of role models is the result of the problem, not the cause. If you had a bag full of sand with a hole in the bottom, you would “not” say there is less sand in the bag; you would say there is a hole in the bottom of the bag. Indeed, we should fix the hole in the bag by providing Males with tools to develop mental/emotional stability so they can better compete mentally and emotionally in the information age. One professional was attempting to find more role models for Male children. He boasted that a Male child’s esteem goes up when they have one positive role model. What he was unknowingly saying was that Males have such little attention that when they do receive that attention, they are very grateful. This creates the large rise in esteem. The fight for attention could be creating misbehavior in Male children.
Many persons are saying there is only an African American Male Crisis for those Males are falling behind more significantly, at percentages of college graduation around 72% Females to 28% Males. This is merely a convenient way to disregard the growing Male Crisis. However, the total for all groups around 62% Female to 38% Male college graduation. This problem is affecting all groups, even middle-class Males. It only appears to affect African American Males more so because the lower the socioeconomic environment and longer time in that environment for those families the fewer information age skills are transferred and more importantly the much more entrenched the more harsh treatment given those Males. The problem would be just as great (as is the case in some areas) for other Males from families of the same socioeconomics.
Today, many boys and men are becoming angry because they losing more than jobs and status, they are losing the valuable thing they are seeking, love, honor, and respect, the essentials of self-worth. The little bites they receive in the media and workplace accumulate over time to create much anger that touches on and erodes their feelings of self-worth. As persons lose feelings of self-worth they also lose regard for the consequences of their actions. If men fall behind more collectively, they may begin to retaliate more collectively without regard for consequences, thus ending the shield of over-protection for women. This will mean much more abuse and crimes against women. It will do well for all parents, teachers, employers, and those in the media to be more “sincerely” kind to others, especially Males.
For women, due to the nineteenth century belief women should be protected and still in effect today, this has created much protection for many women. When we are talked to from young age, we are given more kind, delicate, more considerate treatment. We are given much more kind, positive, upbuilding eye contact and attention. This continues from infancy right on through adulthood by family and society in general. This creates very low layers of mental frictions collectively for women. This makes thinking, learning, and motivation in mental areas much easier. Since girls are not required to be strong, this protection and continuous attention from day one also create a high speed expressway of continuous, mental, emotional, social and academic support, knowledge, and skills that accumulate in advancement in many areas over time (years). Again, listen to the difference in how little girls are talked to with more gentleness, ease, and nurtured stability, even in adulthood. These two continual supports from society over time provide nearly everything a person needs today to succeed in the information age. Since women are given through overprotection (for some, even indulgence), the benefits of love, honor, respect, and continual support, all of the benefits of self-worth from an early age without qualification (simply for being girls), they are working with much more continual support and interaction to accumulate more continual mental, emotional, social, and academic knowledge and skills that can be transformed easily into money, power, status, and image. Even after this, society’s protection, care, and continued support along with its views of beauty and charm help women in the information age.
Even in lower socioeconomic areas, Female children, although with more anxieties, less income, and much less educational knowledge, girls from a very early age are given much kind, caring, stable, verbal interaction and other wonderful, mental, emotional, social supports from parents, teachers, and peers. This continues from infancy through adulthood. This, combined with the much more aggressive treatment given their Male peers, creates a very large gulf in information age skills and knowledge with those girls doing much better in school and information age jobs, while their Male peers are failing and failing to succeed in the information age.
In the past, the world was very physical and very harsh. It still is in many areas of the world. Women could not survive in such a world of immense allowed physical force used in many places of business and other areas. There was and still remains in to an extent, innersecurity we as women can have and maintain by having a family, home, and care from society. This still remains an option for many women. The reason, many women are doing much better now, is because the better treatment we have received has maintained our mental, emotional, academic health. Now in the information age, there are many more positions available for women to use their academic skills and choose in which direction we wish to go, either to have a home and family or make a success and now taking over in business, law, medicine, and communications (media).
Even now, some women are slowly taking over in technical fields. You see the stem fields are presently composed of Males from nice middle class environments, who have had sufficient knowledge, skills, stability provided, and in addition, have been raised to have love and honor only on condition of some continual achievement, status, image. This has allowed those Males sufficiently supported to achieve highly in technical fields. The problem now is that our society is now becoming a two class society where the Males doing well in those areas are slowly dying off. This leaves fewer remaining Males sufficiently supported here in the U.S. and many Males from other countries who have come to this country to use their skills in those areas. I feel those numbers will continue to dwindle over time but have sufficient numbers of Males to have say, more equality in makeup, due to 1. Males having to continually prove themselves thus having much more incentive and 2. More Females still having the option of choosing family and home or other fulfilling work. Still I see in the long-term, equality for women and even taking over in those technical areas also.
Women are now surging ahead academically and economically due to more protection and men are puzzled as to why they are falling behind. If you remove the old money from older men, the girls are making more. Now in the information age, Males are now competing with Females who have been well supported from day one and Males are beginning fall behind big time, especially from women in their 20's and early 30's. http://www.reuters.com/article/lifestyleMolt/idUSN0334472920070803
You see, society still believes in genetic differences so everyone remains blind the very real, differential treatment that is creating these differences. The current beliefs held by both men and women today is Males learn differently and/or men are simply lazy and do not try hard enough. These false beliefs only add to the growing Male Crisis. The men who believe this myth and who do not have information to the contrary may believe they are somehow mentally inferior or just not working hard enough. Somehow, humans, men included, tend to reflect the treatment they receive in their lives upon others and do not know or are not allowed by society to say how differential treatment is hurting them. This may lead Males to give up in developing various mental, emotional, social, and academic skills over time. They may limit their interest and desires to smaller windows of fulfillment within their social connections. They will continue to dress up for display, their Male defensive cushion to at least present a plausible image when dealing in areas where they are not as competent. Worse for these Males, they may advance their beliefs and feelings onto their sons, thus enabling the continuation of the harmful belief of inferiority in the information age.
As for women, they having been told the same teaching that persons are naturally better in some areas or simply work harder. They may truly feel they are simply more intelligent or have worked harder to achieve what they have achieved. In our world, again women like men often reflect their environment and treatment upon others and so do not appreciate large differences in treatment. In our world of insecurities, it is no wonder when women achieve, to boost their insecurity, as affects everyone, they will believe this achievement is due to more intelligence or greater effort on their part and not due to any environmental variables.
There is a growing phenomena, that involves driving of Males from the work place. Part of the reason is there are fewer jobs left for Males in blue collar areas and more job openings in more white collar areas. But there are other reasons for this change in society. One reason is the nineteenth century belief Males should be strong has left many Males years behind in various mental, emotional, social, and academic areas of learning. This has created a large pool of Male employees who are not able to adapt to information age needs. Another reason is that as more Females enter positions of power and collective control, they are more apt to keep Female employees and lay off Male employees (there is no equal opportunity protection for Males). There is another more complex reason why Females are keeping their jobs and Males are losing their jobs. The nineteenth century belief Females should be protected works in the work place also. It places more constrictions on how jobs, intimidation, force for output, and general respect and care is given to Females. However, society’s allowed aggressions upon Male employees allows much more harsh treatment of Males in terms of verbal abuse, intimidation, job assignments, and lack of respect in general. This difference in treatment over time places the Male in a much more precarious position in deciding whether to continually put up with such mental/emotional abuse or quit or be fired for finally drawing a line at some point. Even when Females face similar treatment on the job, the overall treatment of respect and care by society support them so they are able to carry on and remain employed.
Men are not afraid of successful women. They have much experience with and prepare for abuse toward them by society, including women who may perceive men to be weak in some way. The nineteenth century belief Males should be strong allows aggression toward Males who appear weak. Society provides love, honor, respect, (the essentials of self-worth only on condition of sufficient achievement, money, power, and status. Women, due to the nineteenth century belief woman should be protected are given love, honor, and respect simply for being women. The nineteen century belief they should be protected allows for much mental, emotional, social support to appear to mature faster than Males. By differential treatment Females are surging ahead. In addition, this overprotection by society and yes, indulgence, creates much more social/emotional blindness that only increases with indulgence and the success it tends to bring. This inevitably leads to those more success women more freely giving verbal, silent abuse, and hollow kindness or patronization either inadvertently through more social deafness and/or purposely from experience with much societal protection. The combination of allowed aggressions upon Males who appear weak in some way; the maintained lower esteem and feelings of self-worth; lack of support for Males; more than adequate support for Females creating more social deafness; and the protected freedoms of various allowed verbal abuse - make a Male who appears weak in some way quite vulnerable to more abuse from such successful women and more also from society.
By showing Males and Females how our environments greatly affect thinking and learning, students will have much more respect for themselves and for others. By providing students with tools to approach their lives differently to continually improve their abilities, students will then have a continuous hope of developing in time, many if not all of the qualities they admire in others. Students will then have a continuous hope of changing and becoming better, newer persons with each passing day.
We need to teach Males and Females how our individual environments greatly affect our skills and abilities over time. We need to show Males and Females how differences in treatment do exist in the information age and have hurt Males over time. By providing this understanding, both Males and Females will begin to have much more appreciation for the other in terms of their differences in environment. Males will recognize how their environments are creating their difficulties and remove from their shoulders the false belief they are somehow genetically inferior or simply not working hard enough. Females will perhaps also recognize both how differential treatment has hurt the Male and speak with greater care and understanding rather than the current society allowed verbal, silent abuse, and patronization they presently give Males they feel they have an advantage over. By providing this understanding, the two groups will be able to exist in more harmony and maintain better relationships.
To reduce and eliminate this problem and help Males have a more equal footing, parents, teachers, administrators, and all forms of media need to be taught how to treat Males in society with as much respect and care as they presently provide Female students. This is the only way to help Males begin to catch up in all of the many social areas they are presently lagging. This new way of thinking will be very difficult for the Male parent, teacher, administrator, or other professional for they have been raised with the old, more aggressive ways for many years and have come to base their feelings of self-worth upon their money, power, status, and image.
Try to think of all the good things a child (and adult) has to have to compete in the information age. They need stability, love, mildness, ease of nature, support, kindness, low average stress, they need mental/emotional/social/academic support at all times, not because they have earned it, but just because they are human beings. This will lead boys and girls to develop and enjoy mental work such as academics and other information age skills that will accumulate in quality and continued enjoyment over time. This is where boys are hurt both academically and economically by not being given same good things girls receive without qualification. As you can see, girls are given this proper treatment simply because they are girls.
For many Males, it will require cognitive understanding of the problem and a willingness to begin treating Male children with the same respect and give the same positive attention to the Male children as they do Female children. For women, this means not using Male children as emotional scapegoats as society has allowed them to do in the past. In addition, women need to begin realizing that using adult Males as emotional scapegoats (with current feelings of protection by society) when they have power over them in some way is a very hazardous way to approach Males. You know, with continuous indulgence so directly related to mental, emotional, social, and academic knowledge and skills over time, society would practically have to treat Female and Male children the same in many areas to achieve equality between genders. I see Males and society losing in the end, but this end may be pushed off much farther into the future provided there is much more understanding and action in this area over time. This problem will only get worse unless action is taken now.
1. I fear followers of the genetic models will try to build a case for genetic learning differences or body mass requiring more activity or tactile learning. Note that nice middle class Males do not have this problem. Also the view of differences in brain activity are more due to large differences in differential mental, emotional, social, physical, and educational reinforcement over time, not organic differences.
2. I also fear the use of Male classrooms with more discipline and more time on task will only lead to more stern and even more harsh treatment and stereotyping of Males to perform more physical or menial labor to match the growing caste system being portrayed in the media against Males today.
Since we as girls by differential treatment are given much more positive, continual, mental, emotional/social support verbal interaction and care from an early age onward this creates quite the opposite outcome for girls compared with boys. We enjoy much more continuous care and support from infancy through adulthood and receive love and honor simply for being girls. This creates all of the good things: lower average stress for more ease of learning. We do enjoy much freedom of expression from much protection that makes us look less stable at times; we enjoy lower muscle tension for better handwriting/motivation; higher social vocabulary; lower average stress for reading/motivation; much more positive, trust/communication with adults, teachers, peers; and much more support for perceived weaknesses. We are reaping a bonanza in the information age. The lower the socioeconomic bracket and time in that bracket the more amplified the differential treatment from a young age and increased and more differentiated over time. Now with girls and women taking over many areas of society, we are enjoying even more lavishing of love and honor, while boys and men still treated to be tough are failing more and are being given even more ridicule and abuse by society and yes, also by girls and women. My learning theory and article on the Male Crisis will go to all on request or can be read from my home site at
We must learn to realize our current, single/multiple intelligence models were simply accepted out of hand years ago and held on to by many who were in control and apparently felt satisfied enough with their own life. Such ones could not see the tremendous disadvantage and damage such narrow, short-sighted beliefs would have on others, even among persons who are closely related to them.
Others in education ask me where I get the research to support my theory. I tell them my theory is quite valid. It fulfills the theory diagram and can be researched using initial bio-feedback readings to create a baseline of average, mental frictions along with other self & observer evaluations for confidence, hope, esteem, long-ter-motivation, academics, reflection time, long-term planning, etc. Then using my cognitive tools, subjects can then be re-tested over time with other initial bio-feedback readings and other self & observer evaluations. There should be lower initial readings from biofeedback along with improved readings for subsequent self & observer evaluations. This makes my theory a valid theory
I tell those who follow the false belief of multiple intelligences in school and the media by failing to provide cognitive tools to improve ability, we are virtually condemning our students to feelings of permanence in ability and feelings of hopelessness that are creating much drug/alcohol abuse, violence, and suicides. Will send complete “Newest Version” by e-mail to everyone. firstname.lastname@example.org .